The assorted musings of Hugo Schwyzer

This is a blog I came across tonight. It's an old posting, almost two years, but it hit me very personally. The full blog is linked above, but this is how it starts:

Hugo is posting a lot today.

My fiancee and I did make it out of the house this past weekend, despite the rain and our mutual flu affliction. We went to see A Love Song for Bobby Long starring Scarlett Johansson and John Travolta. It was a passable film if not a deeply memorable one, and the two leads were quite fine. (I do want the soundtrack.)

<>Johansson's character, "Pursey", is 18 and lovely. Travolta plays the title character, a 50ish alcoholic former English professor prone to quoting George Eliot and making odious sexual remarks to Pursey. At one point,following a particularly obscene comment, Pursey turns to Bobby in hurt and frustration and cries out "But I'm just a girl." It's the line that lingered for me. Pursey is legally an adult, and the film makes clear she is not sexually unexperienced -- but the plain power of that one line drove home for me the reality we often choose to ignore, that those who appear outwardly fully adult may still be in need of our care and protection.
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It goes on to question, examine, and analyze the older man/younger woman relationship. The actual post isn't really long, but there are two years worth of comments which are riveting. I read about half of them before I decided to bookmark the page and finish later.
It hits home because this is an attraction that I deal with constantly. It's odd that every serious relationship in my life has been with older women, but that now, at 42, I find most of my friends are younger women, who I have a varying degree of attraction to. Some I work closely with, and have to watch my every word and action, not unlike the college professor in the blog entry. With others, it's an implicit imposibility for reciprocation that I accept and cherish the relationship and friendship I have with them; for unlike an aquaintance of mine, I will not eschew a friendship if I cannot have the relationship I might fantasize about (yes, I've blogged about him, and no I'll give no more information). Anyway, I'd be interested in any comments, either here to the blog, or privately to my email, about any experiences you may have had with age difference relationship.