Realizations
S and I were up in Beloit last weekend to catch a show of You're a Good Man... After the show we were chatting with an older friend up there, he happened to mention that he's made the realization that he's at the age where the ladies that he might look at "in a certain way", are never going to see him in the same way. This was a big realization for him. I'm wondering what took him so long. He's about 60. I came to that realization about 40. But S was impressed that he even made that connection. I don't think she understands what a big thing it is for us guys. It's a huge milestone. I guess that's another symptom of the age gap between S and me, She's in her 20's and is often told (either outright, or implicitly) how attractive she is. Men don't hear that as often, even at that age, and even less as they get older. So to finally realize that what wasn't being said, isn't even being thought anymore is a bit of a cold shower to our psyche (and our egos).
Well, at least I've gotten used to it. And I also find that some of the ladies I look at "in a certain way" are also getting older.
Some, not all.
I think I've mentioned before, I really like the word Avuncular.
Well, at least I've gotten used to it. And I also find that some of the ladies I look at "in a certain way" are also getting older.
Some, not all.
I think I've mentioned before, I really like the word Avuncular.
posted by Intothelight4now at 8:44 AM
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I got an e-mail comment from a person who wishes to be anonymous, but I liked her comments, so I'll post some of them for her.
"Odd, I guess I never thought about it, because, for me, at least, as a woman, I was always told men get more distinguished with age, but women just get old. Having been told I'd be over the hill by 25, definitely by 30 and that no man would look at me after that, they would all want someone younger, prettier. Funny what we think matters.
How odd to hear it from your (male) perspective. Either way, I find the men I look at and/or have always looked at 'in a certain way' never so much look older to me, just more important, more special. They make me far happier to have had the pleasure of having had them in my life in whatever way they chose to be there, and I'm always grateful for that. "
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